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RESOLVE CONFLICT: RESOLVE CONFLICT: EVERYONE CAN WIN EVERYONE CAN WIN Skill 12: Broadening perspectives Skill 12: Broadening perspectives Extra study materials Extra study materials & Collected Bibliography Bibliography & Collected aligned with all conflict resolution skills skills aligned with all conflict resolution skills specific skills specific and referenced in podcast series and referenced in podcast series No fee required to reproduce this page if this notice appears: No fee required to reproduce this page if this notice appears: © The Conflict Resolution Network PO Box 1016 Chatswood NSW 2057 Australia © The Conflict Resolution Network PO Box 1016 Chatswood NSW 2057 Australia Email: www.crnhq.org/podcasts www.crnhq.org Email: crn@crnhq.org Podcasts: www.crnhq.org/podcasts Web: www.crnhq.org * cm@cmhq.org Podcasts: Web: Analyse the broadener perspective Analyse the broadener perspective Become a witness, present and alert to other people’s experience and taking an • Become a witness, present and alert to other people's experience and taking an objective view of our own. How would a compassionate outsider describe this objective view of our own. How would a compassionate outsider describe this problem? problem? What can you and can you not change? Adapt to the flow of unfolding events. • What can you and can you not change? Adapt to the flow of unfolding events. Find the path with heart. Both personally and as part of society, look wide and look • Find the path with heart. Both personally and as part of society, look wide and look deep. Transform apathy, aversion or contempt into active compassion. deep. Transform apathy, aversion or contempt into active compassion. Consider the wider context. What else bears on your decision-making here? What • Consider the wider context. What else bears on your decision-making here? What are the implications? are the implications? Watch the ripples, notice the interconnections. Does the problem extend further, • Watch the ripples, notice the interconnections. Does the problem extend further, and would the solutions have wide-ranging effects? and would the solutions have wide-ranging effects? Is there an ‘ah ha’? A new perspective that improves on old thinking and previous • Is there an 'ah ha'? A new perspective that improves on old thinking and previous approaches? Ask yourself ‘What do I really, really need?’ You’re on a learning approaches? Ask yourself 'What do I really, really need?' You're on a learning journey. Perhaps there’s an old habit that no longer serves you and maybe you can journey. Perhaps there's an old habit that no longer serves you and maybe you can let go it, at least just for today? let go it, at least just for today? Respect, value and include differences. Other viewpoints form part of the whole • Respect, value and include differences. Other viewpoints form part of the whole picture. Remember, ‘AND’ not ‘BUT’. picture. Remember, 'AND' not 'BUT'. Include a long-term perspective with the inevitability of change. Rather than • Include a long-term perspective with the inevitability of change. Rather than resisting it, can you shape it for the better? Hold to your vision and sit with resisting it, can you shape it for the better? Hold to your vision and sit with uncertainty if that’s what’s true for now? uncertainty if that's what's true for now? Harness synergy. Find the extra element that makes the difference. What new • Harness synergy. Find the extra element that makes the difference. What new factors, ideas, perspective or people might interact to shift the whole problem. factors, ideas, perspective or people might interact to shift the whole problem. Experiment. Learn from the failures. Join the change that is possible once people act Experiment. Learn from the failures. Join the change that is possible once people act together. Add your voice. together. Add your voice. Broadening our perspective is like climbing higher up a mountain to see further horizons. Broadening our perspective is like climbing higher up a mountain to see further horizons. Only from these higher perspectives can we find meaning in distressing events and find the Only from these higher perspectives can we find meaning in distressing events and find the relationships between seemingly unconnected potentials. From these higher perspectives relationships between seemingly unconnected potentials. From these higher perspectives we can learn to behave as a caring, co-operative and global community. we can learn to behave as a caring, co-operative and global community. No fee required to reproduce this page if this notice appears: No fee required to reproduce this page if this notice appears: © The Conflict Resolution Network PO Box 1016 Chatswood NSW 2057 Australia © The Conflict Resolution Network PO Box 1016 Chatswood NSW 2057 Australia Email: www.crnhq.org/podcasts www.crnhq.org Email: crn@crnhq.org Podcasts: www.crnhq.org/podcasts Web: www.crnhq.org * cm@cmhq.org Podcasts: Web: Broadening perspectives worksheet Broadening perspectives worksheet Work with the skills involved in broadening perspectives. Work with the skills involved in broadening perspectives. Consider a challenge that you are presently facing. Consider a challenge that you are presently facing. Is there a broader perspective that could help here and spark some changes in your Is there a broader perspective that could help here and spark some changes in your thinking? thinking? Tick each box below that is relevant to this situation. ☐ Is there an ‘ah-ah’ for me here that can ☐ Can I witness myself and others more 0 Is there an 'ah-ah' for me here that can 111 Can I witness myself and others more shift my thinking? What do I really, really objectively? How would a caring outsider shift my thinking? What do I really, really objectively? How would a caring outsider need? see this? need? see this? ☐ Am I respecting different points of view ☐ What can I and can’t I change? 111 Am I respecting different points of view 111 What can I and can't I change? and including them? ☐ Can I inject more ‘heart’ into this situation? and including them? 111 Can I inject more 'heart' into this situation? ☐ What is likely to happen long-term? What ☐ What factors, what context, should 111 What is likely to happen long-term? What 111 What factors, what context, should inevitable changes must I come to accept? influence my decisions? inevitable changes must I come to accept? influence my decisions? ☐ Would introducing an extra element make ☐ What and who else is affected by this 111 Would introducing an extra element make 111 What and who else is affected by this a difference? Is more support available? problem and by its possible solutions? a difference? Is more support available? problem and by its possible solutions? Would that help me to speak up? Would that help me to speak up? Check each box above that is relevant to this situation Tick the box if it's relevant to this situation Which of these is the most relevant to you? Why? Which of these is the most relevant to you? Why? How might you deal with this issue differently with this broader perspective in mind? How might you deal with this issue differently with this broader perspective in mind? While studying all the conflict resolution skills, did particular skills or models or processes While studying all the conflict resolution skills, did particular skills or models or processes stand out for you as better ways to handle issues? Which? Are they useful here? stand out for you as better ways to handle issues? Which? Are they useful here? (Refer to following summary of skills.) No fee required to reproduce this page if this notice appears: No fee required to reproduce this page if this notice appears: © The Conflict Resolution Network PO Box 1016 Chatswood NSW 2057 Australia © The Conflict Resolution Network PO Box 1016 Chatswood NSW 2057 Australia Email: www.crnhq.org/podcasts www.crnhq.org Email: crn@crnhq.org Podcasts: www.crnhq.org/podcasts Web: www.crnhq.org * cm@cmhq.org Podcasts: Web: The Skills of Conflict Resolution P a g e | 1 The Skills of Conflict Resolution Page 1 1 Remind yourself of the 12 skills of conflict resolution. Consider the attitudes, analysis techniques and interaction methods involved Remind yourself of the 12 skills of conflict resolution. Consider the attitudes, analysis techniques and interaction methods involved in each. In practice, of course, these tend to merge. They are all useful at any moment. in each. In practice, of course, these tend to merge. They are all useful at any moment. TWELVE SKILLS ANALYSIS TECHNIQUES • ATTITUDES INTERACTION METHODS TWELVE SKILLS ANALYSIS TECHNIQUES ATTITUDES INTERACTION METHODS 1. Win-Win Question needs, values, use Commit to finding what's fair for Go back to needs, ask them questions 1. Win-Win Question needs, values, use Commit to finding what's fair for Go back to needs, ask them questions everyone. everyone. 2. Creative Perfection vs Discovery. What is the Head for the positive Respond rather than react, be curious 2. Creative Perfection vs Discovery. What is the Head for the positive Respond rather than react, be curious Response opportunity this offers? Response opportunity this offers? 3. Empathy Consider where they fit on DISC model. Value and respect individual differences Use active listening - ask questions 3. Empathy Consider where they fit on DISC model. Value and respect individual differences Use active listening - ask questions Analyse personality-based needs, values Use empathy openers. Build rapport. Analyse personality-based needs, values Use empathy openers. Build rapport. and communication styles. Tailor approach to suit others’ needs 1- and communication styles. Tailor approach to suit others' needs 4. Appropriate Check if you’re guided by Fight or Flight. Respect all people's needs and rights. Respect boundaries 4. Appropriate Check if you're guided by Fight or Flight. Respect all people's needs and rights. Respect boundaries Assertiveness How could I Flow in this situation? Stand up for my own needs and rights Make "I" statements – clean, clear and I Assertiveness How could I Flow in this situation? Stand up for my own needs and rights Make "I" statements — clean, clear and without violating those of others. concise. without violating those of others. concise. 5. Co-operative Recognise the relevant power bases or I choose to employ my personal power Consult, share information and use active 5. Co-operative Recognise the relevant power bases or I choose to employ my personal power Consult, share information and use active Power sources. without diminishing others. All resentful, listening Power sources. without diminishing others. All resentful, listening Is power being misused? cowered or rebellious attitudes need to Is power being misused? cowered or rebellious attitudes need to Use "I" statements to give descriptive, Use "I" statements to give descriptive, Are there Persecuting, Rescuing or be rethought. Are there Persecuting, Rescuing or be rethought. useable, non-blaming feedback useable, non-blaming feedback disempowered Victim behaviours here? I aim for power ‘with’ not ‘over’, disempowered Victim behaviours here? I aim for power 'with' not 'over', Set goals and rules together Set goals and rules together Own your own power: transform “I influence, not manipulation. Own your own power: transform "I influence, not manipulation. Share responsibility and decision-making. Share responsibility and decision-making. Should" to "I Choose". Am I putting Should" to "I Choose". Am I putting Delegate whenever appropriate. Delegate whenever appropriate. ‘Shoulds’ on myself or others? 'Shoulds' on myself or others? Disengage from power struggles. Disengage from power struggles. Recognise difficult behaviours: power and Recognise difficult behaviours: power and To someone in authority over you, suggest control issues, bids for attention, desire To someone in authority over you, suggest control issues, bids for attention, desire only, reaffirm their needs, show respect. for revenge, appearing helpless. only, reaffirm their needs, show respect. for revenge, appearing helpless. 1 No fee required to reproduce this page if this notice appears: No fee required to reproduce this page if this notice appears: © The Conflict Resolution Network PO Box 1016 Chatswood NSW 2057 Australia © The Conflict Resolution Network PO Box 1016 Chatswood NSW 2057 Australia Email: crn@crnhq.org Podcasts: www.crnhq.org/podcasts Web: www.crnhq.org * Email: crn@cmhq.org Podcasts: www.crnha,org/podcasts Web: www.crnha,org
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